Empower Your Young Athlete
"I have personally experienced detrimental gym culture. Now that I have the knowledge that I do, I can’t believe I did not recognize the negative coaching I was experiencing. The coach was unpredictable, demeaning, and belittling and has contributed to many of my setbacks in normal day to day life.
- He told my teammates and I we were an embarrassment when we did not compete to his standards.
- We would get punished at practice by assigning us unreasonable practice plans to complete.
- He would throw his phone, ChapStick, or anything he could get out of his pocket when getting angry at our performance.
- He would kick mats and scream or make us condition if we weren’t going fast enough. These are just a few examples…
I think the worst of it now is I never learned to have a voice. We were never given the option to have one. We listened and did as we were told. We did not question the “grown up” that was supposed to be taking care of us, the “grown up” that was supposed to help us follow our dreams, the “grown up” that we would interact with more often than our own parents at times. We were children who were taught to be respectful and we believed the “grown up” was RIGHT and WE were WRONG.
You are probably thinking HOW? How did I, my parents, my teammates, or other parents and staff not see this was a terrible culture?
We did not see it. We did not have the knowledge to understand it. We only had the knowledge that these coaches and staff were telling us. We were told to trust the process. In our eyes they were the experts. THEY were RIGHT. BUT in all honesty this mistreatment was happening all along. Every season an athlete would quit. Every season when someone would quit we were told by the coaches:
- they had a “crazy parent”
- or the athlete “had a bad attitude”
- or the athlete “did not fit in the group”
- or they left because “it was best for their bodies”
Unless you were the victim of their outrage you could not see the damage being done. With the rest of the group excelling, who was going to listen to the one parent or athlete that was having a problem? Who was going to question what the professionals were telling us?
The reason this culture continues is lack of knowledge, lack of training options, and lack of coaches’ accountability. We were surrounded by a community of parents and teammates that were like family, to this day some of them are.
Who would want to leave a family or support system of this caliber behind?
Who would want to commute an hour or more to start your support system over?
Who would want to question the coaches to back another parent up if their child was excelling and “the favorite”?
Who would want to take that risk?
My mom and I sought out a mental health provider and started to ask these questions. We went through all of it and in the end we took the risk because we had to. After numerous meetings with coaches and ownership it was time for us to leave. I was given the options:
1. Stay with my mentally abusive coach with no means of supervision.
2. Or leave
Another parent that was close to us told me the day of my decision to choose the option that makes you feel most empowered. As a child I was devastated because which one of these choices were empowering? I told ownership I had the right to tell my teammates I would no longer be doing gymnastics with them. So I did. They got lined up and I told them I was no longer going to be their teammate. It was the most heartbreaking experience of my life. When I left it was a shock to everyone. My mom received many phone calls and questions asking what happened, why was I leaving, and was I going to finish my senior year somewhere else. The coaches and ownership told their lies. They told everyone I chose to leave BUT I pride myself on even through their lies, they could not get anyone to question my character.
I had received the leadership award voted unanimously by all coaching staff that previous year. My nickname in the gym for years was “mother goose” because I took care of all the athletes, even the little compulsory girls having a bad day. I loved caring for others and that was something no one could have taken away from me. Through all of this we thought it would open others eyes but an abusive culture is a pattern that takes a long time to repeat itself and is often the pattern not recognized. When you are inside the culture you believe this is normal, this is what it takes to be on a path to success. In truth there are many different paths to success.
I did finish my senior year out with a coach who believed in me and put my goals first. I beat my personal record on bars, beam, floor, and all-around at my last meet of the season. If that does not show you what positive culture can do I don’t know what else can! Every year we get a call from yet another gym parent asking for our story. Every year more athletes leave the sport they love. I wish my story could have a positive impact before it happens to them."
Anna has encountered challenges related to mental health in both personal and professional aspects of her life. Through these experiences, she has gained a profound understanding of the significance of human connection and its essential role in well-being. Holding a Bachelor's degree in Psychology, she is dedicated to enhancing the mental health of others and transforming degrading sports environments to more positive atmospheres, drawing on the knowledge and insights acquired through her academic pursuits.
Drew consistently extends a helping hand and compassion to those in need, finding joy in connecting with others and bringing out their best selves. His passion lies in the quote "if you can be anything in the world, be kind" and is driven by the belief that a healthy mind transforms life from mere survival to genuine enjoyment.
Why We Focus On Mental Health
Data according to Psychology Today, Mental Health Foundation and The American College of Sports Medicine
1 in 3
Elite athletes suffer from disordered eating, burnout, depression and/or anxiety
25%
Of youths experience a mental health problem in a given year
50%
Of mental health problems are established by age 14
Only 10%
Of athletes with known mental health conditions seek help
We recognize the importance of creating a judgment free, safe space for athletes to express their emotions, fears, and struggles to establish meaningful connections and trust with others while promoting a culture of empathy, understanding, and support.
We are committed to continuously improving and expanding our services to better support the mental well-being of athletes by developing new techniques, tools and resources that address the unique challenges of the sporting community.
Building self-assurance and positive self-image are critical to athletes' overall well-being and encourages athletes to build resilience, set achievable goals, and manage stress, ultimately helping them perform better both in and out of the gym.
We are responsible for providing ethical, evidence-based and client-centered services to athletes, coaches, parents, and organizations to foster a culture of transparency, honesty, and integrity where we take ownership of our actions, learn from feedback and continuously strive to improve.