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The truth is, confidence isn't a fixed trait; it's a skill that can be built and strengthened, just like any athletic ability.
Think about it: a gymnast doesn't land a perfect backflip without countless attempts and small successes.
Each successful step builds their belief in their ability.
The same goes for their mind.
If your child struggles with confidence, it doesn't mean they're "unconfident" by nature.
It simply means they haven't yet learned how to consistently build and access their inner belief.
Albert Bandura led the way with this type of thinking.
He theorized (which has been proven and used hundreds of times since) that it's not about what skills you have, but what you can do with those skills.
Here's a simple, actionable strategy you can start today:
The "Personal Highlight Reel."
After every practice, game, or even a challenging school assignment, ask your child:
- "What was one specific thing you did really well today?"
- "What's a moment you felt truly proud of?"
Help them describe it in detail. Encourage them to mentally replay these positive experiences.
Over time, this consistent focus on their successes builds a powerful "highlight reel" in their mind.
It creates a LOT of evidence that they are capable, skilled, and effective.
This isn't about ignoring challenges; it's about giving them tangible proof of their strengths.
You'll be teaching them that confidence is a skill they can grow and learn just like any other skill.